Lifestyle tips

I have had a fat/weight-gain fetish for as long as I can remember. Only in the last 2 or 3 years, though, did it start manifesting as actual food bingeing. I have gained about 30 pounds since that started. My intentions and desires keep swinging back and forth between wanting to be “fit” and wanting to helplessly scarf down 4000 calorie breakfasts.

This fetish has been occupying increasing amounts of my mental space over the last few months. It feels like it is taking increasing amounts of control, and I’m just not sure how to navigate the situation. I want to feel like I am in control, and not like a fetish is controlling me. Who else has been in this situation? What did you do about it?

Thank you for reading, and thank you again if you have help or insight to offer.

I would first figure out why you want to gain and why you want to stay in shape. Then go from there.

I would definitely say you need to evaluate how much you want to gain/if you want to continue. In the meantime, definitely try to cut back on the binges and exercise. Do you have someone who could support you to keep you in check?

This is some sound and straightforward logic, and I think it’s what I will do. Thank you!

Eh. That's a false dichotomy. There aren't only two options - playing it safe and maximizing your experience. There's a whole bunch of stuff in the middle too.

Also, there are valid reasons someone may or may not want to gain weight. And no one but OP can decide what's the right answer.

If the issue is more the obsessive/obtrusive thoughts than the actual weight issues, talk therapy is always a healthy thing to try out. It’s easier than ever to talk to someone, it can even be chat/text based. Always nice to get a little tune-up for the feelings if you can.

This is good. You’ve convinced me to talk to a therapist.

Cool! Just my opinion (but shared by many), but therapy is a super healthy thing that everyone can benefit from at different times. It teaches you how to talk to someone else about your feelings and you get to know yourself a little better.

It’s not something that most people are good at right away, so don’t be discouraged! It takes practice and developing comfort with your therapist. But they’re one of the few people in your life who is just there for you (that’s what you pay them for!)

So I don’t think wanting to gain weight or lose weight or watch other people gain weight or any of that is bad! I think it’s wonderful. But obsessive or intrusive thoughts can be very distracting and disruptive, and sometimes disturbing. If those kinds of thoughts are bothering you, I hope you’re able to learn techniques to make them easier to manage. And you might find you still want to be big, which would be fun, or not, which would be fun. Good luck

I get the impulse to stuff myself to full and gain weight when im horny and alone. After i jerk off i sometimes get the post nut clarity like why did i just eat all that. Otherwise there are periods when im not even thinking about or trying to gain weight. Than someone randomly commented how big my belly has gotten and my fat obsession started again.

Thin line between Feeding & Food Addiction.